But everyone tells me
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I'm sure I'd get that too if "everyone" in my circle knew my sitch, the real deal, but they don't so they butt out. So, be careful who you talk to and whom do you tell H's latest shenanigans. Whenever my H has needed help I've been there (while S), never saw myself as a doormat, I didn't help him at my expense, I did what I could, which was mostly moral support at the time.
So, yes, be selective on the opinions you listen to.


Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2

30something
2kids
survivor of S, MLC, A, D
I have peace in my heart, at last.