This issue is not a question of right or wrong. It's a question of honesty and perception.
If you say your goal is to restore your marriage, how does removing your wedding ring demonstrate consistancy with what you say?? Be honest with what you really want. Demonstrate what you want with action.
If you remove your ring out of anger or hurt, how can you expect to demonstrate solution based divorce busting?? You can't.
Solving relationship issues depends on your ability to set your negative feelings aside and focus on seeking solutions through positive feelings/attitude and self help/improvement.
A wedding ring is an important symbol. Removing it sends a serious message that this relationship is over. It's OK if that is the message you wish to send. However, lets not try to confuse it as an act of restoration.
Ring removal may be part of a very well planned last resort technique. Keep in mind that LRT's should be reserved for when all else fails and you are done with the BS. LRT's are for when you reach the point of no return. LRT's are not for newbies. A well planned LRT takes self control, patience and loving detachment. These are not levels a newbie can typically attain.
Start with the basics and keep your rings on. It is a symbol of your committment.
IMHO
Stepping down from the soapbox!
Kent
This one really struck a cord with me. I have not been wearing them as much lately, but wore them up until Thanksgiving although occasionally on the other hand. Thanks for the link klm!
The show was a blast. It was not like any circus I have ever been to that's for sure. The acts were amazing and I love that they tied everything together into a story like a play or something. I would love to see one of their permanent ones in Vegas. Zumanity sounds very cool, but as my girlfriend pointed out since it is about sexuality and is 18+ it would probably make her "horny" lol. I had to agree. I think it would be fun to take H to if he was ever willing, but as he still has not responded to my phone call, who knows if that will ever happen.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
