I totally understand the "going through the motions" thing. I was basically doing that 80% of the time when I started the 180-GAL thing. It was more a strategy than a life change, just trying to get my H back. But I realized on Sat. that if he suddenly wanted us back together completely, I would have to say, "Not yet." I want him back, but I can't live the way we did before, it always wound up with our marriage in real trouble (2 affairs among other problems). So unless and until he and I both make changes, I know now that it won't just "work out". So I am really trying to work on me and hoping he will work on him. Although to be totally honest, I am probably still "going through the motions" 25% of the time. It's not that I don't want to GAL, etc., it's just that I know some of what I do is still in the hopes of saving my marriage. But I think that is okay, because I DO want to save my marriage. It's just that now I realized I really don't want my old marriage back (at first I was willing to take ANYTHING just to stay with H), I want and need and deserve something better. And you do too, and you will realize that in time if you don't yet. Good luck. Also, I waited an hr. to text back to my H. Let him wait on me on occasion! And as far as going back to work, my background check cleared today and already my favorite elementary school called to see if I could sub on Wed & Thurs of this week. So little ones will be in FT day care a couple weeks early, I know they will survive though! I will take the work offers as a good sign of things to come...
