Willing to be disturbed...

[fooled again]

I don't know which is worse - living together w/ no sex, or being S and having sex. My H and I are S, and I suppose you could call what we are doing a sort of "piecing", but I still feel uncomfortable with alot of things (and yes, Ediemarie, I have been thinking about what you said to me earlier in your thread about what I would tolerate if my H and I were dating).

Maybe what you are both doing is better in the end, b/c when it does happen you will know its right. I let my H back into my life and bed too quickly after too many bombs, and now am left with that feeling that maybe even now I'm giving away too much, though it is affirming to know that we still have that physical connection. The fear of being "used" is pretty strong though - during his A he had both me and OW (possibly w/in hours of each other). It still makes me feel sick, and the imagery is indeed very hard to work through at times.

If I had to do it again, I would like to have been able to hold out longer. Maybe the best thing is to just give it all the time you both need to make it right, and real and really "yours" again. Every sitch is different, but I believe I would swap places w/ you and be living w/ my H and not having sex.

FA