I think Sara was suggesting dating as a way to get your husband jealous and maybe to get him to feel what's it like to lose you.
In my opinion, getting him back because he's in a jealous rage doesn't mean he's changed sufficiently to rebuild the relationship.
I think you shouldn't date at all until you are divorced. You'll be able to tell your daughter and show her, by example, exactly what kind of woman you would like her to be.
Personally I think your husband should only get your daughter once every other weekend.
Well...He has lost me. He's not one bit jealous of anything/anyone relating to me. It's over and done. I don't want him back anyway. He has gone too far. He tried to hug me yesterday and I cringed. For some friggin' reason he decided to run his fingers through my hair and I wanted to puke.
I guess I brought up the dating topic just as a "what if" I met someone question.. Not because I have any alterior motives. *sigh*
Set some boudaries - ask him not to be touching you. It would mean different things to each of you and this does nothing to help you let him go. He needs to see how it's really going to be once D'd...
I am so sorry for you - I wish you had better news...
You do sound as strong and fiesty as ever though and that is good! MC is good at keeping you fiesty!!
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You need to get him out of the house as quickly as possible. Any chance he can move out this weekend? Strongly encourage him to do this. Of course, you'll have to trade off on custody. Just give him every other weekend if possible.... No more than that.....
I don't think most people in the midst of a divorce are ready to "date." That's a recipe for a bad relationship (rebound!). I personally, think people make wiser choices when they've had time to heal and have worked through the baggage. Of course, the decision to date or not is entirely up to you. I just notice that most people I know who date during divorce seem to get into some pretty crummy relationships.
But I think meeting guys and girls to talk with and be friends with (and someone you might eventually want to date) is practical. In fact, there was one guy I met during my divorce that I enjoyed talking with and found attractive and who really seemed to like me. I told him I wasn't dating, but maybe once my divorce was over, and if he wasn't seeing anyone, perhaps we'd go on a date. I never felt bad about this. We truly were just friends. Nothing happened and his friendship taught me there was life out there and if my marriage ended. Maybe not someone I'd want to marry (I'm too practical, I look at impact on kids, probability of success, etc.... and chances are I'd just have guy friends... and nothing serious until the kids were gone. I just don't want the drama).
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
MC is good at keeping you fiesty!!