LO, that is a very interesting dream. It just seems rife with symbolism, doesn't it?
I've had a few of those dreams myself -- some quite disturbing. Wish I had paid more heed to the ones prior to the bomb.
Also, and I won't belabor this any more than saying this -- in DivorceCare, I've heard the testimony of others who've been down this road of dating. One woman in our group bore a lot of regret for the post-separation relationships she got involved in both before and right after her D was settled. She is now mortified at the impact this had on her teenage D.
I myself don't like hearing the statistics, but I have to face the facts. It takes an average of 1 year for every year of marriage to fully recover from its breakup. Just like any other serious injury -- whether physical, spiritual or emotional -- if you rush the recovery time before you've truly had a chance to heal, then you risk further compounding the injury.
The key is to find peace and comfort in your own solitude and to find your own wholeness before you entertain the melding of heart and soul with another. We are each responsible for bringing a whole person into such a union. Paradoxically, two cannot truly become one if one or both are not whole individually to begin with.
