well, all hell broke loose, it is over and done

[cat03]

hey girls )))))))) had a good session, H did his homework right before C, run out of time. Mine was about trust, giving benefit of doubt, words of affirmation, etc. His, well, it was on the negative side, he mostly wrote what it is *not*, he wrote things that used to happen before he left (us not ML when I was mad, him saying sorry and me not thinking it was enough, etc etc). I wanted to pull my hair, these issues are years old, nothing current, I told C that indeed my H keeps living in the past and perhaps has not forgiven me for our M life. The C talked about living in the present and stop dwelling in the past if we r to go anywhere.
To talk to each other and stop assuming, because whatever assumptions we make about each other in our heads will not be good.
I learned a few other good things too, it was pretty constructive, and I know H is more receptive when he is not on the spot, this MC talks to both of us about a subject even if it relates mostly to one of us, so that helps.

Going again next week, H seems a bit more himself, have not had an argument since that mess, we are able to talk to each other well, we can disagree without ugly words, so that's an improvement.

Hugs to you both)))) thanks for checking on me