As I recall, your W. has a graduate degree, so understanding the cable bill SHOULD NOT be like untying the Gordian knot! Is she kidding? DB tells you to "try different things if what you're doing is not working". I did the same thing as you when W. went into the Rottweiler mode, and it had the same effect as for you. It made it worse, and her anger became like a bottle rocket, escalating to new heights in seconds. Also, an "INJUSTICE COLLECTOR". June 06 when I was still at home, she brought up a litany of items in succession that "I didn't take the imitative for”. One of her big things...initiative. This was June 06. The first item on her list was how angry she was, and how she couldn't enjoy a drive across the country from one of my active duty stations, because I had packed my belongings in my SUV instead of having the Army ship them, and she couldn't lean back in the seat..... That was July 1987!
I like your breakdown of the why they behave this way....I could never have that kind of anger in me for any reason, except for someone hurting one of my kids.
