I'm kinda, dare I say it, objectifying him solely because it's been so long....
I hear you, sister. I have previously beaten my H over the head with You're Not Having Sex With Me, It's Not Right, Etc Etc. Yeah, that's sexy. I'll be right there. Not.
This was a problem in our M before he had an A. Yes, the irony kills me. HE had an A. Should've been me, considering who was sex-starved in our M. He was affirmation and respect-starved, hence the A.
Anyway! I feel you, and understand the Frustration. My H doesn't want to ML unless and until our emotional R is strong (or at least better) . He's such the Girl about that!
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3