Why are you trying so hard? If a captain of industry who's attractive by his own description gets one-down to a woman in a distant town after a week or two of long distance interaction, so be it. Own him for as long as you enjoy it.
If and when you find you no longer enjoy it, move on.
Good question/comments. I don't have a good answer except to say that I don't really feel like I'm trying very hard. More like I'm hanging out back at the roller rink I frequented when I was a teenager and now that I'm skating forward with confidence (especially when they play "Brick House" which was always my song-lol)I'm thinking "I used to know how to skate backwards. How did that go?"
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
