This woman is NOT your friend. And there was nothing "accidental" about her comments. Who knows what her true agenda is...but it is not helpful or respectful to you or your stand for your marriage. And she is certainly NOT speaking for your wife! Shake her off!
She is one of "Satan's agents." I don't mean she is evil. Just that Satan can and does use anyone and all of us for his purposes -- usually unknown to the person -- to do his bidding.
Her comments about "When are you going to get it? I hope you are moving on with your life." should send up huge red flags for you. Anytime -- anywhere -- anyone -- ever says anything like that...instantly know it is Satan speaking through them.
Never engage with these people. Just calmly reply, "Thank you for thinking of me. I am doing quite well and I am on the path that God is leading me to be on."
NEVER ever ever tell anyone who is not like-minded of your "stand." This is not wise. Never engage, never explain, never defend. Instead just deflect.
Summer, thank you for your guidance in this matter & my apologies for taking so long to respond
I have been digesting all you have said here & it is nigh time I STOP engaging these naysayers as you so rightly put!!
As to breaking off with the hairdresser that you and your wife share...I have mixed feelings on this. I would only do this if you feel God is leading you to do this.
Otherwise you may be interfering in a conduit that God wants you to have -- and that He has put in place for His own reasons.
Nothing in what you posted leads me to see that God wants you to close down this channel of communication. Instead it just sounds like YOU are trying to manipulate and control this situation for your own purposes. And the truth is that you can't force anything.
Going to the same hairdresser may or may not be quelling your W's curiosity. You don't know this.
And how do you possibly know what God may be using this channel for? You don't.
No matter what you do to try and manipulate and control a situation -- if it isn't on God's agenda...it isn't going to work out as you hope. Pray on this before you act.
I would think you are clever enough to keep this channel of communication open and to carefully use it to your advantage. I don't believe in coincidences -- so I have to believe it is a holy channel.
But you should become very mysterious when you're there. Act very happy and be very non-specific -- so that you control what information will possibly get back to your W.
Summer, it's great to have you in my "camp" as I was soooooooo wanting to shake things up a tad by closing down this relationship with our mutual hairresser
Your reply confirmed that I need to keep this channel open until I am led otherwise
And BTW, is it possible that this woman who hopes your moving on with your life...may hope you'll "move on" in HER direction?? Just a thought! Otherwise she is just a "wooden spoon" trying to stir up trouble!
This lady has known my wife & I for a LONG time & she is considerably older than I am and she has never once made a pass at me - we have a friendship & I've trusted her with everything I've told her
She knows pretty much everything that is going on in my life as I tend to update her every other week or so...
This lady has told me that she is not prepared to be a go-between my wife & I and IF / WHEN my wife wants to communicate something to me then my wife should do that directly ----> I remember her words going something like "I don't want to be used as a canvas..."
She seems adament my wife will not be coming home, ever!!
Good luck!
Summer
Thank you for your kind words & I pray you will be able to hang around my threads until my marriage IS restored
