There's more. I think all that spiritual path stuff is malarky and code talk for avoiding responsibility. Why is it that no thought is given to the idea that her purpose in life MIGHT BE to be a good wife and mother. No, that isn't even a possibility to be considered. Her life's purpose is to have a big massage business. Excuse me while I barf. And that is somehow SPIRITUAL in nature.
Ok, I understand what you mean now. You said what has been bothering me too which is 'how do you know your spiritual path is NOT to actually learn how to deal with adversity - once and for all? I mean, on the one hand it's said that 'you learn from one partner, then move on to the next after the lesson is done'. But WHO decides what the lesson was and when it is 'over'? Whomever wants to 'move on' because it's uncomfortable?
What if the lesson was, as you said, to LEARN how to be a wife and mother under difficult circumstances? What if she got 'me' as that 'partner' so she could learn that lesson. Our 'highs' have been very high and our 'lows' have been very low. If we could balance each other out we'd do great.
She told me once that in previous 'lives' she thinks she sacrificed herself for her lovers and that in THIS life the 'lesson' is to know when to 'let them go'.
I agree with you. It is a way to allow yourself to not be responsible. That doesn't diminish my responsibility for myself in this whole thing, but as Blyndfaith has said to me, 'do you bail on someone who has cancer?' Then why is it ok to kick someone in the gut when they are down as she clearly knew about me for months? Because I was sometimes angry and she got hurt?
By the way, she has always been a good mother. a little over protective though. Both our kids (d12 d17) are confident and self assured.
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Well I am a good wife and mother. And I work two part-time jobs. I don't need to go traveling around the world seeking spiritual pathways, I have work to do right here at home. I have kids to feed, and problems to solve, and kids to get through high school, and college and keep in their first job. I have to find a way to pay all the bills. So yeah, I'm not impressed with her peaceful ways, and how everybody likes her, cause I see someone who is riding the waves through life and looking for a new surfboard.
