Here was her response to my email:

I'm sensing you're in a tough spot right now. Perhaps it's because I'm making the shift which is more concrete. Not staying with sis etc.

Next Sat. I'd like to go to Costco and I need to get my hair cut. I'll need some groceries too. I also will be needing a bit of down time so I'd prefer to wait a bit before we see each other again. I found yesterday to be very emotional and kinda draining and I just need a bit of space. Please understand, that's what this process is all about.

Having a XYZ week (this is a work thing, presentations etc) on the week of the 22nd and you know how draining those are for me.

I will stay in touch!


Guess I need to back waaaaay off now. I emailed her back, 'no problem, call me when you're ready, don't want to push'.

Maybe being Mr Nice Guy isn't working. I used to be a lot more confident and assertive, I think that's what she needs to start seeing, because it is the real me.


Me: 54
Her: 50 and sexy as hell
M: 32yrs
T: 34yrs
Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection"
Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire"
She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08!
Everything's GREAT!