Yesterday, one of our children let me know that the reason he didnt say things about waiting our family back together over there, was because he "didnt want mommy to get angry at him." ! So there was some unexpected confirmation of the theory. I called her right after it happened. She didnt seem to take that news very well.
W came over for dinner this evening. The way she's been lately... for example, cancelling/postponing our promised make-up trip that was supposed to be on MLK weekend... made me wonder if it was going to be a disaster. (this was done two days ago, not after yesterday)
Happily, today's dinner was quite pleasant. Despite the fact that she had a bit of a cough that she mentioned has been dragging her down for the last few days. Although some slightly weird things came up... "things that make you go Hmmm."... It's amazing just how many times she can completely surprise me by going in an unexpected direction, just when i think i've prepared myself for every possibility.
No mention of "thoughts on forgiveness" from her (she said a few days ago she would "think about it".) But, given our seemingly very tense(but brief) discussion on our children's feelings yesterday... i was quite happy to just let it be an unperturbed pleasant evening tonight to balance things out.
Guess I'll just try to enjoy a positive evening, and let it go at that.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
