W's grandmother passed away this morning. Just not a good time for her. Trying to be supportive and be there for her. Told her that I will take care of the airplane ticket. This is a 180 for me. Usually I would just give her the phone number and let her take care of it. I hate making calls and etc. I took charge and booked the ticket for her. On a side note, the airlines are a bunch of blood sucking vampires. The bereavement (sp?) rate is higher than the regular ticket price? It's like taking advantage of people that are down and not thinking straight. Anyhow, just want to say that getting out of one's comfort zone is hard but sometimes necessary to improve.
Took W to a German restaurant tonight that reminds her of her grandma's house. She said the smell brings back memories. It was nice that my parents are visiting and was able to watch the kids. Finally a dinner with no stress. The W and I had a good time. Sharing food, memories, and laughs. It was really nice. I even ordered for W. First time in like ever. She really liked that. I'm trying to work on the taking charge and be proactive.
W mentioned that she really needs to work on being comfortable with me supporting her and being there for her as she's never felt that way for like ever. Ouch! Long story short we are both pleasers and we usually end up arguing about stupid things since we both want to please the other person. I really feel it's not always that I've never been there for her, but she needs to learn to accept love and care from me as well and be ok to allow me to do things for her.
Hopefully these are little positives despite the incoming D....
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.
