Starting to get it.... my 3rd thread

[Dom R]

that was the end of conversation. we ended up having sex and going to sleep. woke up 2 hours later, he left at 7am. he didn't seem worried or nervous, but just happy. I don't think i've seen him that at peace in a long time. I was really nice. Don't know if it will last or how his trip will effect him, but i do know that it's the first real conversation about all this that we've had. No blame, no guilt, just a real conversation. It was a nice change.

Wow... way to go, Ann! good, honest talk.. and you'll note that your husband was happier that you didnt just try to sugar-coat everything
Hopefully, this is a good motivation for you to keep doing more of the same when it comes up.

So.. then, with your other problem...

It sounds like like you've flipped into "LD mode", for whatever reason. And you have no idea how to handle this, because for as long as you can think of, you've been waaay HD.

You might wanna start reading a book or two that is oriented for LD women, to see if it gives you any inspiration.

You also might wanna start some self-examination on exactly WHY you are LD now.