14 days of separation now. nothings really changed. I did have a stunning revolation though.... NOT getting sucked into arguments,, actually means NO arguments.{ding ding ding} Acting as-if isn't as hard as I thought. so I can really only count it as 3 good days of peace now {since revalation/"Spiritual Dope slap" if you will} . I've stopped trying to "fix" this. Seems to be doing something. the D momentum has slowed way down.
I've figured it {A small piece of It} out I think? If I don't fight back I can't make it any worse. {ding ding ding} Letting it go as they say, Letting go of the rope. She's unsure what she wants and She keeps trying to get me to kick her over the edge so she can say "SEE I knew it". I am not taking the bait though.. I honestly think the dust has settled. I could be wrong but it feels good. Staying Calm. Acting as-if. Seeing the kids every day. Giving her her space. Just striving for the one day at a time. Instead of focusing on the big picture..
Mike, sometimes when you're not in the middle of it you can see things a little clearer and actually DB better! When you're in the situation you're often just trying to keep from going under and that's about all you can handle. You sound great, keep it up
