I think it is LO's choice. I am not judging, but here's my opinion. LO is still married, and is married in the eyes of DD. As such, IMHO, I would not "date". Years down the road, the kids will know about dating, and it's not good value to pass on. Having said that, I feel it is perfectly OK to meet up with friends, male or female. There is a fine line between "friend meeting" and "dating". And I think if LO sees the male friend as "sexless" and just a friend to hang out with, there is nothing wrong with that. If the other party also knows that there is no expectation of any sort, it's OK. Now, if the other male party makes a move, then it's up to LO to make sure that he knows she is not dating, just friendship. Of course, there is a fine line. Many times that's how A started, from friendship to someone makes a move, to <you know what>. But I do think LO is strong and she knows what she is doing. In which case, nothing wrong with hanging out.
In my case, I went out mostly in groups. There are guys there who are obviously interested. But once I knew, I do make sure they know I am not interested in dating, just having fun with a group of people. I did not go out with a guy alone, but I feel that would have been OK too as long as I know and set the expectations. Guys are not that stupid and except for the stupid ones (I think we all know at least one of those, namely our H's), will not push if they know the woman is not interested at the moment.
LO, you are a strong women. Go have some fun and get away from all these craziness for a while. BTW, I think it is not good for your H to expose DD to OW now, since you two are still married. But again, that's his (stupid) choice.
