Hi monkey bug - I think your right - it just so happens the ow comes along at just the right time when they are rethinking their lives and wondering what else is there and look at the every day same old routine they have with us and maybe we dont compliment them as much or put them first and flatter them becuase the kids come first - then the ow is fun, appreciates them, doesnt talk about bills or the kids and they look at their lives with us and think the grass is greener. I know how hard it is picking up the pieces with the kids - my H is so uninvolved right now. He does not even stick to every other weekend visitation. My H also said there was no chance of reconciling and he was "really enjoying himself now". But then he slipped and came back for a few days and then left again. So pay no attention to what they say right now. With time he may change his mind. I think to myself sure your enojoying yourself - wouldnt we all like to live a fantasy for awhile! But we wouldnt not at the cost of our families. Anyway keep your chin up too. We really dont know what the future holds......
