I was just wondering if you could tell me what the Passion Trap recommends the person who finds herself in a one-up position should do to stop a dysfunctional cycle from developing? I don't get turned-off when this happens but I am finding that my natural tendency is to vibe cow and be kind in order to bring things back to equilibrium and I guess I'm wondering if that isn't counter-productive. For instance, if I was in a relationship with a guy who initiated sex every night, I would probably not initiate sex because my needs/wants would be satisfied but if he said something to me like "I feel like you don't really desire me because you never initiate sex." I would initiate sex and the reason I would do it would be because I would feel sympathy or empathy for him and want to be kind.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
