It's her divorce. Let her do it. I do nothing to facilitate it. If she wants it, she'll do it.
I make light (no D talk) contact with her via mail. She rarely answers the phone. She won't answer email, then cancelled the email account that I had for her. She did on her birthday (Dec 13) and we spoke for a brief moment for the first time in 18 months. I had only planned to leave a Birthday message.
I was advised by Jim Conway to stall as best I could with faith and love, in hope it will give her time to come through this.
She wanted to just walk away. She's done her best to erase me. Then she started with the settlement offers. I counter with believeable counters ( I don't make outlandish demands), but counters I don't think she'll take.
This is the legal side, the side on which I can 'do' something. In truth I can do nothing. She must come through this on her own.
The body of my work is done on the spiritual side, through prayer.
I'm also a member of the Midlife chat room and email list. This group has been very supportive, and there's much to be learned there.
You'll have to read my threads for the full monty.
David
The fires of true love can never be quenched, because the source of its flame is God Himself! - Shulamith
