Sun, I think it's a good idea to have everything documented and in black and white so that your h can actually see, rather than hear about the bills. Some people just assume that the bills will remain the same as they were years ago. For example, some think that groceries will remain the same and are sticker shocked when you present the receipt to them. Nothing stays the same and that's part of the problem with people in crisis. They assume that everything will remain the same throughout the crisis and it doesn't. Nothing, and I do mean nothing, including us will not remain in a still position.
Sun, when you do sit down and speak w/him, please try to count to 10 before saying anything. The calmer you are, the better. He may choose to bait you, but you can't take it. Just talk in a very nice, calming voice and hopefully he will listen.
I do hope that you can enjoy the day. It's looking very strange here today. The sun pops out but the sky has the look about it that would normally suggest some "snow", but it's too warm.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
