jar, I will be the last person he tells that he wants to work on the marriage. Its just him. I also believe that he will run fast when he hears the changes I would need to fix this thing.

saffie, I feel pretty good about it. I try not to think if H is talking to OW (or worse), but sometimes that creeps in. And yes, I am sure H is happy I haven't 'turned' on him just yet.... ;\)