I must have totally missed that... She seems pretty firm in her admission that things are not 'going back'.
I was going by three things that you put in your post: 1. She loves you. 2. She cares about you. 3. She wants nothing more than to be a family again.
At the same time she also wants space from it all. She can't reconcile in her head whatever issues she's having that are keeping her from those three things.
That's what I see when I read about your situation. I think that you have hope but she needs time to heal.
Peace, B
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008