It sounds like you have a good plan for your future and your head is in the right place. Being able to forgive your W will likely give you peace of mind, and staying friendly with her will probably make things a lot easier for the kids sake. I wish you well.
Me: 43 W: 41 Together 2009, Married 2011 Sons 10 and 6, Daughter 5 Bomb 2/21/21. W moved out 10/2021