W and I seem to be getting along very well lately. She seems happy to be moving in with the OM and the kids are ok about it too. I still think it strange that she finds attraction to someone that has kids her age. If that is what she desires, it is her choice. She does say that I am a good man and father, but she is just more interested in someone that can be a fatherly figure to her. I believe her thinking might also be clouded by the fact that he is quite wealthy.
Today, as I had some rare time to myself working in my yard and working out at the YMCA, I was able to think in a relaxed manner. I know I am going to be happy with life after our D. I have so many plans for myself and my kids to enrich our lives. I want to get another sailboat and teach my kids seamanship, fishing and to respect the ocean. I want to get back into moutain climbing, skiing, backpacking and the other outdoor activities that I stopped doing in our M because my W was not interested.
I also dont want to hold any grudges and am ready to forgive. I plan to call up the OM soon and have a good friendly chat. I want to take the high ground. After talking with W, she said that OM would like to talk with me too. I want to wish him the best with my W. I want to remain friends with W as that will be a good example for our children and will make our interactions with each other good. My W has said to me tonight that she will be there anytime in the future for me to talk to.
For now, my future plans are to hold off on doing any dating. I will probably just focus on my kids, do some male bonding, read some more R books and get back into the solitary outdoor activities I so enjoyed in my prior single life. I want to take my time to become more self actualized before jumping into any new R.
I still believe what Michelle says - no marriage should have to end except for the abusive ones. However, I believe it takes both parties in the marriage to have that belief. My W sees many marriages in Thailand as unhappy ones where they are staying together just for the sake of the kids. She still cannot see, that with work and time, a stale marriage can be revived. I will accept her decision to D. I will, however, do all I can in the next 15 years to slowly get the teachings of Michelle's to my children so that they know to marry a spouse with similar beliefs in working on and saving a marriage.
