You need to enroll in some acting classes because this is going to have to be quite a performance of acting "As If". You're going to have to ignore her attitude and keep a PMA going the whole time you're around her. If it gets to be to much, get yourself away from her even if it's just a walk around the block. You're going to have to carry the load during this time. Don't expect anything from your W.
You're right - I feel much better now after getting a break. It's really hard to be around her all the time when she is behaving so distant.
That said, I do need to get myself together and 'care less' about what she does. Doesn't do me any good at all to react to her.
Originally Posted By: bhopeful
Her dour attitude isn't because of you. Recognize that and things might be a little easier. It is very positive that she still loves you are cares about you. It seems like she just can't deal with much of anything these days. You need to take any pressure that she might be feeling from you away. Make sure that things are easy breezy relaxed when she's with you.
She certainly seems overwhelmed and confused. I think she's going to feel pressure with me around for a while, whether I actually do anything to encourage it or not. She has expectations as to what the time will be like with us living together, so the first thing I need to do is prove her wrong (so to speak). Other than just DB'ing my ass off and doing the right things, it's just going to take W some time to figure it out.
Originally Posted By: bhopeful
It sounds like she wants to make things work with you but she just doesn't know how right now. She feels hopeless. Time will help with that.
I must have totally missed that... She seems pretty firm in her admission that things are not 'going back'.
