That's an excellent point, Being Me! We do need to teach people how to treat us, it's so hard when you've been fighting an uphill battle for so long, trying to hold on to any little thread and being willing to put up with crap in the hopes that somehow this will turn around. I probably don't know how to do it yet, and this is why I ask the questions I did earlier about the situations I was dealing with at church and with Coffee Buddy. How do you know where to draw the line? You must be flexible and understanding of others but, as in my M, it can become easy to just put yourself aside trying to be understanding and therefore giving people the impression that their behaviour is OK. I can't even fathom drawing that line right now because I get so emotional and reactive to things sometimes. I guess it will be a long term work project. Btw, I just returned from D's BD party at W's. W was a pleasure to be with and we all hung out together for the afternoon. I actually fell asleep on the couch and when I awoke W laughed and said "never a dull moment at this party, is there!" D loved her gifts, D10 bought her a number of things from the Dollar store (D10 loves the $ Store but D14 hates it!)but they were all very well thought out gifts and D14 was very appreciative. It was a nice afternoon, especially when I was awake!
