There is only me

[Becca1975]

Ephesians 6:12. I read that entire chapter in church, from up front, 2 weeks ago. We used to go around and each of us read a verse from a specific chapter but I guess some people were feeling awkward about reading aloud and not comfortable just passing, so i threw a hissy fit, and said that that may well be the only times some people even get the information in the bible, especially the teenagers. So, we agreed that those of us willing to read would take turns coming up and reading a chapter, and because it was my idea, I got to read the first Sunday. I picked that one because it is the one that I read when things get tough.

Now, I consider myself a pretty tough chick. I can shoot a weapon, and pretty damn well. I know some Taekwondo. THe kids and I singlehandedly cut, split and stacked our 5 cords of firewood for the winter. I have almost 4 feet of snow that I deal with on a daily basis. I can take it. Thing is...I don't need any of those skills. I have the armor of God. The breastplate of righteousness. The Sword of Truth. That is all one needs.

You said a few days ago that if you did anything about your daughter or husband, one of them would hate you for it. If there is one thing that I learned, that my C tried to drill into my head...it is that sometimes that is what you have to do. Let him/her hate you. Guaran-freakin-teed they'll get over it and even respect you for it. They will. The three of you are all fumbling, trying to survive, but not one of you is strong enough to keep everyone going, so it is time for the one of you (YOU) who can see clearly, to take the reins. Take charge. Take your daughter from his household if she is witnessing his drinking. Let her and him both be mad at you. You only get one chance at this parenting thing, don't make the mistake of letting your daughter be tramatized, as so many of us are, because that will take years to undo, and will affect all of her relationships as an adult.

LET him be mad. Let him stomp around and not speak to you. Let him do what he feels like he needs to do.....and then if he wants to drink in solitude, let him. Be Strong Amy!