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It could be worse.

You are right though, there isn't much you can do. You stated your boundry and he tramps across it. (Pun intended). You can come right out and ask him if that is what he plans and reinforce your request. Unfortunately, she is his daughter as well and unless he is endangering her welfare, he can do it. The courts do not generally think exposing a child to the OP is endangerment.

As Theo says, the boy needs a crowbar to his melon.


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Confirmed - H is spending afternoon with D4 and ow. This is craziness!!!! I must say that I am disgusted with him. The more he does now that the D is in process, the more I KNOW I do not want him back. I find him blecky (as lwb would say)

2nd bs thing - H's ic recommended that we take the next month to take turns being gone on weekends so D4 gets used to it. WTH am I supposed to do???? H will go stay w/ow at her house. Where am I supposed to go??? What kind of crap advice is THAT???

Soooo.... Isn't it ok to go out on a platonic date now? Nothing serious.. just have some fun and male companionship (no, I'm not talking about sex!). Why isn't that ok??? This marriage is DOA without a doubt!

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It could be worse.


HOW??

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As Theo says, the boy needs a crowbar to his melon.


YES!!

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Olive,

It is OK with me for you to start moving on with your life. Whose approval are looking for? It's your opinion that matters.

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It just seems wrong since we still live in the same house. Crap.. I hate this!!

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Olive-

How could it be worse? You could have ruined your flooring and have to replace it.

Guys don't/can't go on platonic dates. As a wise person once said, in a guys mind there are two types of women...ones they have slept with and ones they haven't slept with. Sorry, we are pigs.


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I agree, he puts you in a terrible position by doing what he's doing, but still living at home. Why isn't he moving out to show his independence?

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I firmly believe that until he sees you go on dates he will not feel the jeaslousy that he needs to feel. It's only after he feels that jealousy that he will know if he really wants a divorce. Imagining you moving on with your life, and seeing you move on with your life are two totally different experiences. He needs to experience it in reality, not just in his mind.

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Originally Posted By: mcojh
As a wise person once said, in a guys mind there are two types of women...ones they have slept with and ones they haven't slept with.


Geez... I wonder who said that?!

Maybe guys are just forced into platonic dates because women have the upper hand in these situations...

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Originally Posted By: Sara
I firmly believe that until he sees you go on dates he will not feel the jeaslousy that he needs to feel. It's only after he feels that jealousy that he will know if he really wants a divorce. Imagining you moving on with your life, and seeing you move on with your life are two totally different experiences. He needs to experience it in reality, not just in his mind.


I don't care what he thinks or feels.

As my IC said last week, I'm just surviving. I'm tired of feeling so darn trapped!!

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So break out! You don't need my permission or anybody else's. The rest of your life is waiting. You won't feel any different the day after the divorce is final than you did the day or the month before. He's enjoying his life. You don't need to sit home and feel bad. You know how to have fun. There are babysitters.

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