OK, probably a long post but bear with me…been off the grid for a while.
Lots has happened since last post, mostly around W and her changing jobs. She left the job that she loved (but wasn’t compatible with children i.e. she never saw them during the week and was too tired at the weekend) and started the new job, nearer home on Tuesday. She has been feeling really ill all week, so most nights has come in and slept on the couch.
On the Monday, however, she went for an interview and was offered another job – which she has verbally accepted. This one offers much more flexibility and is in a different company – away from OM. W has a job that is in demand (Pharmacist), so she can almost chose jobs and where to work.
I also think W is accepting/understanding that she is having a MLC, but is still attached to OP. This is where this board can give me some sound advice.
W has received a letter inviting her to a meeting with her colleagues in London. OP will more than likely be there and it is in February. W has started the process of resigning from company and when I gently raised the issue of her attending this meeting; she still wants to go ‘To say goodbye to my friends’. I have no issue with this, but I do have the issue that she will be going to a hotel for an overnight.
My question is how do I approach this? I can state that this meeting is causing me apprehension (she hasn’t physically seen OP for 9 months - contact by phone only) and whilst I do not like the contact, the thought of them being physical would be too much to bear. Whilst I do not want to prevent her from going to this meeting, I don’t want her to spend the night there.
I know that she would not be able to lie to me, but I also want to trust her, so I want to phrase it in such a way that helps.
Thanks in advance for all the responses.
Apart from that, W has been ill and I have looked after her. Intimate last night and probably more over the weekend. I equate this to positive, as if I repulsed her, she would not allow me near her.
