Thanks, guys! I really appreciate your thoughts. I've been thinking quite a bit about why I can't talk to my W the way I seem to be able to here since Ingrid and BA posted last night. I'm sure it is more than a simple. For one thing, she doesn't like the way I play with words. She likes black and white, clear meaning, pretty much in everything. I can't say if it has always been that way, I sort of think not. But, and here I am seriously projecting, I know it before you tell me, I wonder if because that's the way I often communicate, and she is not happy with me, she extends that to being not happy with things that I do? It helps to complete her belief that I am not the person for her. A story, sometime in the past few months we were at her parents house for dinner (we usually go over there once a week, it is a good thing). I said something that was a play on words, I have no idea what. W made some sort of negative remark. Her mom said, "I thought it was funny!" The point being that the way I am here, which is the way I am most comfortable, isn't what she wants. Which makes thing a lot harder for me. on the other hand, I may see if I can try to open up some lighter communication. It might be an improvement over what we are doing now!
Ingrid, yes, I have DR. I haven't looked through it in while. I think perhaps I should! Thanks for reminding me about that!
Lin- I was thinking right along the lines of the Outback cheesecake. I'll try for better, but the bar is pretty high, there!
