Question about OW

[mymonkeybug]

I believe the MLC symptoms begin first as they struggle with self doubt and concerns over getting older and less appealing to people in general. I think a female, whether it be someone who is a friend or someone new all together, just happens to show up and give the right look and say the right things and they feel like a teen again. Suddenly there is a woman giving them attention and making them feel like they are the only person in the world that matter which is part of what they need. As husbands and fathers they feel they are only providers and can't duck those responsibilities that come along with being a husband and father. In my case, I feel that this new friend hubby met was the right female at the right time and he felt comfortable talking to her about how he was feeling about life in general and the stresses of bills, work, a marriage that was plugging along very ho hum, all the things that he should have been able to talk to me about but felt he needed an outside perspective on. I do believe they developed and intense emotional bond and he denies there was ever any sexual contact and I have to right now take it as the truth until he tells me otherwise.

It's hard beig, in my case, married to someone for 15 years and then they suddenly decide without any obvious warning that they Love you but aren't in love with you anymore and want out then move out. It is also very hard for me handling the kids as they are emotinal wrecks but he sees them as happy because when they are with him of course they are since their rock and stability is back although for a short time. Then I get them back and it takes an entire week of trying to calm them then he gets them again.

He seems to fight so much the idea that there could actually be something going on in his head and pshyche causing these feelings and that maybe the feelings aren't as severe as he thinks. He swears there is no reconciling this and that he has NEVER been happier than he is right now being away from me oh but it KILLS him inside to be away from his kids.

Keep your chin up and hold out hope until you and only you knows when it is time to make some hard choices. You however are still very new to this as I am and we have long hard roads ahead of us.