Very true, Lin. I know my H tried to reach me lots of times, but it was the shock of his being ready to actually walk out the door that woke me up.
When you're ready, Jeff, you'll know. Do you have DR? There's a section called 'The Ultimatum' on this very subject - I think it's in the infidelity section - somewhere in the back, anyway.
Just flipping through the book trying to find that section makes me want to read it again. It will be a good thing to do this weekend while I try to figure what, if anything, to do next.
