W has filed for the D,where to from here

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HHIF,

My W is the opposite of yours, she sleeps all the time without AD or sleeping aids. When she was at home, I would come home from work she'd be asleep, wake up for dinner and asleep 15 minutes after she sat in a chair.

Mt W also denies there is OM involved but a conversation with my aunt last night, W had told her she was seeing a co-worker that I had suspected all along. I don't think she is seeing him right now, but will after the D.

I also don't want a D, have told my atty so. W is in MLC, she broke down in MC and said she thinks she's having a MLC, she doesn't know who she is, what she wants has any hobbies or outside interests. NC suggested that we separate and give her space. I realize that was probably a mistake now, she should have stayed home and worked on it together. All along she said she felt guilty when I told her I loved her. I hope she wakes up too and hope she's not too ashamed or proud to admit she made a mistake.

Family and friends all want me to D her and move on with my life, but I'm standing for my M and will honor my vows. I've told the kids even if D goes through, I will wait, although I don't know how long.

I talked with her on Monday, told her I wanted to go to Retrouvaille that I don't want to walkaway without trying everything we can to save M. At times she looked like she was listening and at others like she was closed minded. Haven't had any contact with her since then, trying to give her time to think
about it but she will probably just sleep. One part of the conversation I asked her if she still cared for me, she said yes but not like a w should, I asked if she didn't like being around me, she asked why I told her I got the impression that she hated my guts at times when I was around her by the way she acted. She said she was having troubles at work.

She did say that she was not talking to the kids about this because she didn't want to involve them. I told her they are going to be involved, they will have choose when there are things with family to do, Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, etc. That even though they are adult ages this will hurt them deeply.

My W also says we grew apart, that we never talked. Our lives were centered around the kids and their activities. But I said to her , you've been sleeping all the time since your hours were changed over a year and a half ago, How can I talk to a sleeping woman?

Need to get ready to go to hospital to see mom.

Mike