Sun, It's a beautiful "spring" day here as well. I have tulips and daffodils coming up and the trees are starting to bud out, which is really not proper, but the animals are enjoying the lovely weather just as much as I am. Enjoy those quiet walks with Buffy. They will help you map out how to work things out for yourself.
I think you presented you h w/a reasonable plan on how to deal w/the finances. Yes, he's always thought you controlled the money, but he's going to see that what comes in doesn't always necessarily to go what needs to be paid out. He's always assumed, just like my xh, that we would take care of everything. It's time for him to be enlightened about the expenditures. If you can maintain your cool during those times, I think he may act half way civil.
Enjoy your beauitful weather!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
