New stuff to report: My H has a habit when he leaves, usually my D8 and I are sitting together and he always kisses her on the head and says I love you J and nothing at all to me. When he left the other night I said to her, I wonder if he'll ever love me again out loud, which I prob. shouldn't have, but that has been a painful routine the past 2 months, and she said, If Dad were a nice guy, he probably would, but he's not." And my thoughts were, Wow, that's weird and sad that an 8 year old would think her Dad is not nice, and also that I'm afraid that's she might be perceptive and right about that, too which bummed me out even more.
My H's new tactic I've noticed is to avoid me at all costs in our house when he is actually home and not with the OW. Wherever I am he will take great pains to be in another room or working outside, or whatever. If I come into a room where he is (I've stopped following him recently per DB advice) he'll leave the room as fast as possible. You know, I'm fairly decent looking now that I've lost 25 pounds this past 2 months of marriage stress, I'm wearing cuter clothes, a little makeup, funny, avoiding relationship talk, we actually laugh quite a bit together lately. Why do you think he is avoiding me like the plague???
Other than not following him around which I have stopped doing is there any advice I should be doing re: this? Will he do this forever or is there anything I should be doing re: this? It's really been bothering me of course. As usual, thanks for any and all advice!!! Karen
