I am sorry your in-laws are not there to comfort you.

My in-laws are very supportive of me and the kids. As a matter of fact, H is not welcome into their home until he quits what he is doing. FIL even wrote H a letter and told him he was disinherited--yep-H went a little crazy over that one.

Your H is not ready for parenting agreements, etc.

I would not push this as it comes off as controlling on your part.

Do not even suggest he might be in MLC as that angers them as well.

The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19