Thanks all. I'm still pondering if I should try something, knowing that rejection is a strong possibility.
I was feeling very down about my sitch last night and this morning. I'm caught in a phase of just wishing things were different.
Jeff- You made a comment about h missing out on our almost-2 year old. This may sound like a defense of my h, but he spends a ton of time with the kids. He was home with d2 all day yesterday while I was at work and he just took the older 2 to swimming lessons. Since he moved out, he continues to spend a lot of time here, which I know is good, but it stops me from feeling like we're really separated. So, then I have expectations...