karen, for some reason, I didn't see your post until this morning. Probably groggy from getting up too early... or else sleeping too late.
You're absolutely right: putting as much as possible in the car the night before is the thing to do. I probably will even shower and wash my hair the night before, too. He11, maybe I'll sleep in my clothes!
I don't know whether bf is going to say anything or not. My money would be on NOT. I could say something, but why? Yesterday he called me in the afternoon and said he was making dinner at his mom's apartment and both girls were coming over because they go back to school tomorrow, and did I want to come. Well... I really didn't. In the past, I would have gone for him, for them, and because it was the normal and right thing to do. It would paint the correct picture: me having dinner with the family that I'm sort of part of but sort of not. But when I really thought about how I felt, FOR ME, I didn't want to. It didn't sound like an evening I would enjoy all that much. So I declined. He seemed perfectly fine with that.
I do love his daughters, and I'm sure they know that. I've never acted like a stepmother or anything, more like an older friend. I hinted to one of them a few weeks ago that there might be some changes in the future, and she said, "You'll always be one of the girls." He IS a great dad and they are fabulous young women.
