Question about OW

[mymonkeybug]

I talk a good talk but am still hurting inside. I do realize that this is so not the man that is my best friend and my soulmate. This behavoir of his is just unexplainable. I do however have to give him the time and space he needs, although he will swear he doesn't need to think about anything and that his decision is final. I look at the fact that he two steps around questions from me about getting together to work out a parenting agreement and shy's away from talking about getting a seperation...almost as though he says he is done and wants out but then really doesn't deep down inside. Like he needs to sew some wild oats and then come home at some point and know we aren't officially over. He knows how intense and deep my love is for him and maybe he is hoping I will always be there. So for right now I have to buckle in for what could be a tremendously long and rocky ride. I have also told him I love him unconditionally and forgive all to which he replied with a Thank You. I believe those are words he needed to hear just as much as I needed to say them.

Try the books I listed above by Jim Conway. If you library has them or even buy them if you can swing it. They really do delve into why the MLC'er does these things and the process and steps they take and the struggles they are fighting with as they are doing all these abnormal things. They are great. They are the reason I have taken this new found path of fighting the good fight but fighting it from a distance as to not push his buttons and drive him away more.