How do I begin piecing??

[MichelleLT]

I totally am with you on the bad decisions part. My H does EXACTLY the same type of thing. When I'm not pissed at him, I look at it more in the light that I am just the more practical one and he is the more spontaneous one. However, when it causes problems for me, it's hard to be patient/understanding and I tend to see them as BAD decisions instead of acknowledging that maybe there is something behind it that he hasn't told me. My H also tends to get very set on one idea (like your H and this one job) and often throws all his eggs in one basket. Again, sometimes I think this shows a strong desire that he knows what he wants, other times I want to smack him for being stupid lol.

You are right that finances are your H's excuse right now. I think it's a plausible excuse for his emotional uncertainties. Maybe similar to my H and using finances as his excuse for not filing for D yet?

As for the fact that he seems to want the pressure, I think maybe it's more he wants reassurances? But like my H, he doesn't actually ask for them, and it's hard to know what he actually wants you to say - my H seems to expect me to be a mind reader sometimes lol. The only thing I can say is listen to him, validate his feelings, be there for him, but don't pressure him. I try and keep the see-saw theory in mind where if you do the worrying he doesn't have to. Does that even make sense? I just got home from work and am tired, so *shrugs* lol. Anyways, I'm sure he is thinking about these things, he's probably just not saying a lot of it to you. As always, patience is the key.

{{{klm}}} Hang in there.