Stuck in Neutral - MN Man's 5th thread

[phbear316]

MM


Question, do you have the divorce remedy book, do you remember the part with forgiveness? I just read a post in the piecing stitch, and one point jumped out at me.

Its on page 206. Have you forgiven you wife? I knew h's affair would imprison me. It started to. I had to forgive him in order for me to even deal with this whole thing. I knew without forgiveness it would kill me.

Do you think you have, forgiving them does not mean they were right and you were wrong. It give you the right to forgive yourself, to start your own healing process. Does it happen overnight no it takes time. I told my H in the only MC session we went to together, that i forgave him, for if i did not it would imprison me. H said not one word. The MC who is now my own counselor was like H do you have anything to say about that very bold and difficult statement W just said, and he had no reply, I guess he never thought i would forgive him and even tell him to his face.

Just wondering if you have. If not maybe start thinking about it.

bear