I know what you are trying to politely say Mark. And I don't think he would invite OW down there. Its his aunt's condo, he wouldn't have the nerve....then again maybe he would. But I would guarantee that his entire family would know I wasn't with him if that happened. And NO WAY would I allow him and OW to take all the kids down there.
I had to give him the message so its out there. He didn't say anything about it, just smiled.
I have no idea what to do. The girls would absolutely FLIP to go (and so would I, I was very sick last year when we went, I missed a lot). But I don't want to go with him in our state now. I surely don't want a nightly call from OW to tell him goodnight....I would throw him off the Dumbo ride...
lwb, talk to your h. talk to him. you put the message there. don't ignore it...its not snooping, its a NORMAL thing to ask him about it.
make sure to think about what you really want out of the conversation first. do you really think you couldn't go as a family right now? what would your response be if he said, okay, he wants to take the girls on his own then?
just be prepared. but honestly I'd ask.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
Play coy. Let him pursue you for a change. Make him have to spell it out for you what he has in mind. But at the same time, until he does so, don't make any assumptions one way or another -- and protect yourself, just in case.
<Edit> Hmmm, on the other hand Sally's response make sense too.
I have to think about whether I would be ok with him taking just the girls on his own. I know they would be fine with him (he has more patience than me sometimes), but I would be very sad about it. The girls would not want me to stay home either.
We could travel as a family just fine, would get along, no problems. As long as we have enough room for the HUGE elephant that would be coming with us. We have time, we won't lose any money even if we just don't show up, so I guess I'll see what unfolds.
You did nothing wrong that day. Why can't they just see the 'light'??? And yes, its always fun during, its the 'after' that us moral ones have problems with..... HUGS!
see, I was good that day, it was the next day that I had problems. sigh.
the funniest thing was I was snapping some pics at storyland and I caught one of h giving me "that look." omg, it creeps me out now to see it, knowing how things went. but it is funny, and makes me remember I'm not crazy.
he, on the other hand, probably has forgotten all about it.
but seriously, lwb, if storyland hadn't been a one day thing, if it had been a week long trip, would that have made a difference???? I wonder....
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
We have time, we won't lose any money even if we just don't show up, so I guess I'll see what unfolds.