But she is also a very giving and caring person, everyone likes her and she's not mean spirited.
So? She's also not really into holding up her end of the deal if it might put her out or god forbid, interfere with her fairy tale view of life.
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I guess I don't see the 'selfishness', I see the 'hopelessness'.
That's because right now you are comfortable atop the pity pot. When you gain the ability to see things as they are, which you will, you will no longer need the rose-colored glasses because you're not going to be so damn willing to carry the weight of this burden. 50-50, man. This crap doesn't slice any other way.
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I just don't see her in that bad light. She is who she is, and is a bit weak, but tired of being hurt all the time. I guess.
Right. And you're not?
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What about the 'dream'? The 'beach ritual'?
I can speak only about what I think about the dream because to me the beach "ritual" only furthers my opinion that she is self-centered. Point in fact, what has she been doing all this time your family has been struggling financially? Did she go out and get herself a job or did she just roll off and give a massage occasionally? The answer to that will be enlightening.
Now the dream, which doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out. She is insecure. About everything and specifically finances and your ability to continue to "provide" the lifestyle to which she has become accustomed. We could look deeper but why? Deal with the part that has to do with you. Or does it, Frank? Perhaps it was her conscience telling her to get a flippin J-O-B!
