I found your posts in another section from when your H came home the one time and you seemed to do so well with it all. Can I ask you a question?
How have you been able to hold on to hope for so long? If he is nice as can be since 2/07 why hasn't he moved home or reconciled with you? Have the 2 of you been intimate? Is your relationship right now just like a superb friendship and seems as though that is all it will ever be at this point? Sorry, I guess that was more than A question...lol. Hope you don't mind me asking them all?
It helps to hear stories from others since I am only 3 weeks into my entire ordeal. My H seems to be going into a withdraw stage this past week. He has gotten rather quiet as far as cell phone activity goes, yes I check everyday online at verizon. And he just doesn't sound the same when he is on the phone with the kids. I can only hope he is now realizing that being gone these 3 weeks isn't necessarily where he wants to be and is dealing with how to come home...yes I am forever hopeful and romantic.
I had ordered and already read 2 GREAT books by Jim Conway that has helped me tremendously get an understanding of Male MLC. They are called When a Mate Wants Out & Understanding Male MLC. He says men go through 5 stages of MLC not unlike the 5 stages of loosing someone to death and reading it that way makes sense. Withdrawal is one of the stages so that is why I am holding out hope even though I have had friends suggest that this OW whether just emotional or sexual too is easier for him to access now that he has removed himself from our home or he has gotten a second cell phone for just using with her. Crushing but I look at what I see not what others are assuming and suggesting. I can't make myself miserable wondering if what they are suggesting is true or not.
Your wisdom in this situation and my dire time of need is greatly appreciated. I have had a SAD day today for the first time in almost 2 weeks. I think it has a lot to do with PMS also which makes me feel so much worse. I cried until there were truely no more tears for the first 4 days and then not again until today. Damn PMS!!!!
Damn, I long to be held by him again and kissed by him again.
Both 35 T 19/M 15 years S8/D5 It's over bomb/ILYBNILWY 12-22-07
