It hurts, it sucks and if I had asked for help sooner I wouldn't be here.
Well damn, Frank. Welcome to the club.
This isn't all your fault, Frank because it doesn't change the fact that your wife has done precious little to help you get the lead out. "In sickness and in health". It goes BOTH ways. She's not so perfect. Not by a long shot. In fact, she's quite self-centered, Frank. You really don't want to hear the rest of what I think. In some ways, she has impressed me. She's gotten herself a little set of balls. That doesn't mean she's big enough to play on the same level as those that will do the REAL work, though. No. Not at all. She's a very selfish and immature woman in my opinion but that's really of no regard here.
Save yourself.
Truly this time.
Then have another look at her and see if you still think she's all that AND a bag of chips.