There is plenty of hope in the words I made bold above.
The dream is also very telling. I hope you see that, Frank.
It's best to DB when you're under the same roof. Start with DBing yourself. You're not going to be believe in anything until you can believe in Frank again.
I guess I see what you mean but I don't see what the 'dream' means. I know I have to 'believe in frank' and I can work towards that goal. I'm just seeing her continue down the path of 'done, time to move on'.
She just called a little while ago asking me to pick up D12 from school at 5 pm because she 'got a wild hair' and decided she was going to go to the beach before she came home for dinner. This is the same stuff she did before, she goes and 'meditates' to validate her decisions and ask for strength / support / whatever.
She has always been about the 'rituals' or 'processes' of 'letting go'. It's all happening again. Same behaviors except there isn't the OM pulling at her so she probably feels more confident in her decision making.
I have to believe in me regardless.
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You can do this. Be the change you both need.
And don't say a word to her about saving the marriage. Save Frank and see what happens. You're gonna have to let your actions speak a hell of a lot louder than your words.
Yeah. I know that eventually I'll be all right. And I won't talk about relationship again. It seems like I need to detach and distance and just work on fixing what I can, and if she goes then that's the way it is. It hurts, it sucks and if I had asked for help sooner I wouldn't be here.
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We will help you just like you have always helped us.
Because we believe in you.
And sometimes that's enough when we find it hard to believe in ourselves.
