Quote: My wife seems to be constantly stressed and I honestly believe that if she would start setting aside some "playtime" for the two of us she would feel much better. I know that I would.
Eeekkk! DON'T make the assumption that the way you work is the way your spouse works. Key point from SSM. It's about understanding the differences and coming up with some way to handle the differences. Accepting that your wife is different from you, that sex doesn't do for her what it may do for you, is part of the process too. It's not just about your wife changing or you doing something to produce desire in her. It's about you accepting her the way she is as much as she needs to accept the way you are. Then work on something which is mutually agreeable to you. It's not about trying to change something that may be part of her fundamental make-up. People often need very different things to feel relaxed.
Who knows, maybe sex would relieve stress for your wife, but it isn't a stress reliever for everyone. It isn't for me. In fact, if what is causing me stress is in full force(Ha! Like that is a singular thing ), taking the time for sex has the possibility of even increasing the stress. This doesn't mean that we don't go ahead, but neither h nor I expect me to be less stressed afterward. If he suggested sex as a stress-reliever when I'm feeling stressed-out, it would probably backfire on him. He would be revealing how little he understood about me.
), taking the time for sex has the possibility of even increasing the stress. This doesn't mean that we don't go ahead, but neither h nor I expect me to be less stressed afterward. If he suggested sex as a stress-reliever when I'm feeling stressed-out, it would probably backfire on him. He would be revealing how little he understood about me.
