Not to make light of the situation, but this may be better in the long run. I am definitely not an advocate of the "easy" divorce, but I did go through one 14, almost 15 years ago and if you pay attention to my age, yes, I was young. I got married for the first time when I was 20 and divorced at 22. It actually was one of the best things I ever did (the divorce). We were both young and didn't have kids. He cheated on me a year into our marriage. It sucked. It really sucked and I thought my life was going to end. It didn't. It actually gave me some much needed independence. I pursued my career. I went back to school. I moved. I enjoyed life. I dated a lot over the years. I had 2 long term (2+ years) relationships. I finally met my current H at age 28 (6 years after my D). I was more mature and had more mileage. I had experienced a lot more and felt I had a lot to offer and still feel I have a lot to offer.
So, what I'm saying is, it is really hard to come to terms that your M is over. It is really miserable to come to terms that your W is not the person you thought she was. It sounds like she has some maturing to do. You are young. You now will have the freedom to pursue whatever you want to do. You will find love again I can guarantee it. And, if you are so lucky, as I am, you're next love will be better than this one. I feel truly blessed that I went through all the he11 that I did before I met my H. It made me who I am and put me in the right place to meet him. Yes, we've been going through our difficulties, but we're pulling through.
Be strong. Be confident. And let yourself grow and move on. If your W is meant to be in your life it will happen, but it can't be forced.
Me: 37 H: 35 M: 6 T: 8 2 cats, 1 dog, 0 kids S: 09/10/07 D started 9/21/07 (I stalled) Piecing: 11/9/07
